Proper etiquette for setting up a wedding registry gift list

Although a wedding gift registry is meant to ensure the newlyweds have everything to start a new life together, approaching it the wrong way can potentially offend and frustrate guests. Here are rules of proper etiquette for setting up a registry.

So you’ve recently gotten engaged – congratulations! As your big day approaches, now is the time to think about your wedding registry and the gifts you want to include on your list. To help prevent unnecessary frustration for you and your guests, here are some simple etiquette guidelines to follow.

Sure, we know you love the crystal wine glasses that cost $350 per pair. However, many of your guests will likely not be able to spend that much. It’s a good idea to include a wide range of items, including plenty of options under $50.

• A good rule of thumb is to have a third of your gifts under $50, another third in the $50 to $150 range, and then the rest above $150.

You should think about your guests, what they can afford, and adjust as you see fit. Keep in mind, some guests will be getting gifts for both your shower and the wedding.

You didn’t forget to register, right? Good. If you did, you might get stuck with a bunch of gifts you don’t want, don’t need or both.

• It’s a good idea to set up the list as early as possible, especially if you have an engagement party or shower rapidly approaching.
• Friends and family will want to send gifts as soon as they know you’re engaged. For others who wait to buy gifts until right before your wedding, you can always update your list later if you forgot something.

If you invite 100 people to your wedding, it’s not a good idea to have 50 gifts on your wedding list.

• The number of items on your wedding registry should exceed the people attending. If you have 100 guests, shoot for at least 125 gifts.
• Don't overdo your registry gift list. Too much choice may appear greedy on your part.

Chances are not everyone who will attend your big day shops online. While it’s a good (and convenient) option to register with an online retailer, you should also include an actual store where your guests live. In other words, make sure you have wedding lists at more than one location.

• You don’t want to deprive your grandma the chance to go shopping, do you? Many retailers will have a bridal department with someone who is happy to help you.

You probably feel like your life is moving at the speed of light toward your big day. From bridesmaids’ dresses to honeymoon details, you have a million things to figure out. Still, you need to make time to figure out what you have, what you need and what you want.

• It’s OK to have some non-traditional items on your wedding list that reflect you as a couple. You can still include those traditional items such as a toaster and blender.
• If this isn't your first marriage, odds are there are things you already have that you don't need again. Like, yes, a toaster.

With a little care and thought, properly setting up your wedding registry gift list is the first step towards many years of happiness!